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Sometimes it is OK to Give Up
Dec 2nd
After you are married, the rules of relationships change. Sometimes you just have to give up. A common joke is that the best phrase a new husband can learn is “Yes Dear”. Well, this is true for both the man and the woman of a relationship.
When you have made a contract with another person to stay with them for life, the game is different. Suddenly you have a lot more to lose in an argument. When you find yourself in a fight with your spouse, stop and think to yourself, “How important is this to me?” If winning the fight is more important to you than losing your spouse, you have a big problem with a big ego.
Are you always fighting until you both are exhausted? Next time you are arguing over something small, notice! Separate your sense of pride from the fight. Tell yourself, this is small, and see what it feels like to let the one you love win. Give it up! Your partner will respect your ability to control yourself and perhaps next time they will do the same.
Romance Never Dies – Spark the Imagination
Nov 28th
Whomever said romance is dead probably isn’t doing very well with the ladies. Romance is still the king of relationships. It must not be forgotten in even the everyday things that you do, like cooking dinner, doing laundry or even just watching television. Dating is the time in which we are to have the most fun, the strongest feelings, so if the relationship is feeling a little stagnant, then it is time to start dating again… with your significant other.
You should find ways to make the little things romantic, start opening her car door or if she makes dinner every night, then give her a night off and make it. It is also a good idea to remind her why you love her and how she makes you feel. Without these reminders it can cause some animosity.
It might be rejected with skepticism at first, but when she understands that you are making an effort, it will really go a long way to making your relationship a lot happier.
How to Find Out if he is Cheating on You
Nov 13th
Do you think that your man is cheating on you with another woman? Maybe you have a gut instinct and his behavior recently has lead you to believe that you are not the only girl in his life? If this is the case then you need to find out the truth and the faster the better! Thankfully, there are a few ways in which you can do this!
1. Check his phone. Text messages, pictures sent and received and late night phone calls are the usually the biggest giveaway that your man isn’t being entirely truthful. Try to get your hands on his phone when he is in the bathroom or out of the house to sneakily look through and see what you can find. You might just hit the jackpot!
2. Check his emails. With online dating becoming a much easier option allowing many men to cheat, it makes sense to ensure that he is not signed up to any internet dating sites and even worse, communicating with other women on a rather intimate level. If you have swapped passwords at a previous point in your relationship? Why not put the knowledge to good use and have another look while he is away from the computer or laptop.
3. Check your internet history! He might be using the computer to online date with other women and betray you. He may also have been smart enough to delete the text messages or emails that he may be sending and receiving but not smart enough to delete the internet history. Why not have a peek and find out?
Men are rather silly sometimes and do not understand the cleverness of some women. This works in your favor when you decide to do a little bit of detective work so why not find out if your guy is cheating on you today before it is too late?
Are You About to Have an Affair?
Nov 10th
Men are the kings at cheating. As much as we women hate to admit this, so many of us have fallen prey to the serial womanizer at least once in our life time. The thing is many men display signs of having an affair before it has actually started giving the ladies a little bit of potential warning to what is going to happen. If you are a guy reading this, you may even find yourself surprised at some of the behavior that is displayed by those about to embark on an extra marital tryst.
The starting point is very often a very intricate web made up of lies, stories and garbage! You haven’t even had the chance to do anything wrong yet, yet you are coming up with strange and bizarre stories to hide where you have been and who you have been with. One thing is for sure – you are preparing yourself for something!
You have started to feel as if you are completely and utterly trapped. You were happy and you can’t pin point the exact moment that the thought of only ever having sex with one more person for the rest of your life became an issue but one thing is for sure and that is the fact that you well and truly have an issue! Cheating because of this is almost like a rebellion; a way to feel free and easy in a world where you feel so enclosed.
All of a sudden, you don’t hate your friends that have cheated in the past as much as you once did. Once upon a time you couldn’t even dream of a world where cheating would be acceptable in your head and now you can almost understand why they did it. Are you preparing yourself yet again for cheating?
All of these signs apply to men and women that haven’t yet cheated but perhaps are thinking about it subconsciously. Of course they might not even happen at all and the cheating could happen completely out of the blue but if you are experiencing these feelings, there is a good chance that you are on your way to becoming a cheat!
How Not to End a Relationship!
Nov 6th
If you feel as if the relationship you are currently in is starting to run its course then it is time to take action. If you really do not think that you have a future with the other person then perhaps it is time to seriously think about how you can get out of the partnership without causing any offence or at least as little as possible.
Men and women tend to shy away from ending relationships simply because they are concerned about the reaction of the other party. It will be an upsetting time and there is no denying that but some people do not handle breaking up as well as others. For example, breaking up with someone by text message, email or telling a friend to do it for you is childish, disrespectful and is likely to earn you a reputation among your circle of friends. Just think about how much it will hurt the other person as well – do you really think that little of them that you can’t break up with them face to face?
If you really struggle about the reaction of the other person, at least break up by letter in which you can be as honest as possible and write down all of the reasons why you cannot be together. This is very often considered to be more personal than texting or emails but is still a rather gutless way of handling the situation.
If you are considering breaking up with someone, there are a few things that you should not do. As already mentioned, texting and emailing is one of these things as is doing it publicly, telling a friend to do it for you and lying about the reasons. At least be honest with them with regards to your reasons for breaking up! Last but not least, stand your ground and do not give them false hope if this is really what you want.
Using Fantasies to Better Your Love Life
Nov 2nd
It is a very well known fact that it doesn’t take a lot to lose your sex drive and neither does it take a lot to lose the passion that you once had in a relationship with your partner. There are a few easy ways that you can bring back the sizzle that you once so enjoyed and for just now, we are going to look at fantasies.
Fantasies are where you look inside yourself for the things that really drive you wild and either act them out to get your kicks or simply talk about them to bring your love life quite literally back to life. In the bedroom, kitchen, out on the street, wherever and whatever your fantasy is, sometimes all it takes is to share your wildest desires with a partner to really awaken the passion that you once had for each other.
Fantasies are something that you should never be ashamed about. As long as there is nothing in the way of degradation or harm, (unless you and your partner like that of course) then you have nothing to worry about and these feelings and thoughts are completely normal.
Whether you are willing to actually act out your fantasies or not, it pays to share. Spend one evening where the two of you can spend some time along and write down your ultimate fantasies if you are not quite brave enough to say them out loud. You could even email them or text them to your partner during the normal working day to ensure a great night ahead! Just let your imagination run wild and have fun with your thoughts and you will soon find that your sex life and then in turn your love life will be back on track.